Finding the Balance

One of the hardest parts to starting a blog, of any kind, is finding the balance when it is not the only thing that you do. I do not do this blog as a career though wouldn’t that be nice. I work full-time and I have a family that wants me around. So how can I do that and be able to post fairly regularly?

I have no idea but I thought I would talk about some of the things that I try to do and some of the things that I think I should be doing to have a better balance at all this. Blogging is a lot more rewarding than I ever expected it to be so I’d like to be around for a bit.

What I do now:

I try to post ahead of time and schedule it for the day that I want the post to publish. That is a tough thing sometimes because life gets in the way, so it doesn’t always happen but it helps when I can do that so I don’t have to worry about it the day of.

I have a schedule of days that I want to post. Sundays, Tuesdays and Fridays. I wanted to also add in a bonus post on Wednesdays so I’m hoping that that will become a regular thing in the future but for now, it’s whenever I can.

I don’t want to force myself to post when I don’t have anything so I try to not sweat it when I don’t post. Despite the fact that my views are barely there when I don’t post, I know that pushing myself will just cause me to post crap that I’m not happy with and in turn will make me uninteresting in posting at all.

I try not to let the numbers get to me either. It’s hard when some days it’s a huge amount and others its single digits but I’ve come to realize that regularly posting and sharing my links is what boosts my views so I just have to make sure that I do that, but if I don’t that’s okay too. This is fun for me, not a job. Which means that I don’t have to worry about losing money because I didn’t post.

What I want to be doing:

I would love to write multiple posts at a time to schedule a whole week at a time. It would be magical to have a whole week set up so that all I have to do is share the link to all the corners of the internet that I’m a part of.

If I could have more topic ideas that would be fantastic. Outside of reviews thinking of things to posts while staying original as much as I can and not doing the same thing that everyone else does is so damn hard!

Obviously reading more books to review would be amazing as well. I have my kindle to read any DRC’s or ARC’s that I get but I have several that I need to read and review. There is just not enough time in the day to get through all of those books in a reasonable amount of time.

I try and pre-plan my post ideas, I even got myself a little planner so that I could have it all down, but the hard part is actually sticking to that plan. This is where the whole writing out multiple posts at a time would really help keep me on track!

Here comes some advice which is kind of silly of me since I’ve only be doing this about 2 1/2 months now but, I’m going to say it anyway. Don’t give up. I’ve tried this blogging thing a few times now and this is the first time it’s really stuck for me. I think it’s easy to give up, to stop when it gets hard or when you aren’t getting the large numbers instantly.

This isn’t the kind of hobby that comes easy. It’s work! It’s writing posts that people actually want to read, it’s being active in the community, it’s being on social media constantly. I thought that it was just about publishing a post and that was it, so when nothing happened I was always so disappointed. What I learned this time around was that every post did matter, but also every tweet, every link share matters so much more. I can see how people turn their blogs into a career, their days filling with writing posts for other days, being active on social media and just being present for everything.

That is doubly difficult to have a successful blog when 8.5 hrs of your day is at work where you can’t be on your social media accounts, then come home to cook dinner and be present in your families lives. It’s easy to get lost in my cell when my kids want my attention or my husband wants to talk to me. Which is so unfair to them because they haven’t seen me all day but here I am looking down and saying the required ‘Mmhmm’s’ when needed, not really listening at all.

I think that the thing that I try and hold onto is that this blog doesn’t define me. If it were to fail that isn’t all that bad, but also that this is mine and I should be allowed to have something that I enjoy doing for myself. I don’t need to feel guilty all the time that I’m doing this instead of something else as long as this isn’t the only thing that I do. Which is partly why I haven’t posted in a week because I’ve been binging on GoT from Season 1 with my husband.

All in all you have to find your own balance, and be okay with what you can and can’t do. Number’s aren’t everything, don’t expect hundreds of views every day because you’ll just be disappointed. Have fun with what you do, post about what you are passionate about. Don’t give up, but don’t keep at something you aren’t enjoying either.

What about you? Do have a balance between life and your blog? How do you do it? I’d love to read everyone’s process and thoughts on mine.

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  1. You’re right about scheduling and making sure you are passionate… and not giving up when it’s hard! Might I add… don’t look at your stats too often? A lot of bloggers quit in their first year because the numbers are disheartening… but it’s all about building your brand and finding a rhythm and if you’re passionate about it, like minded people will come! ? Congrats on your first couple of months!

    1. Thank you! Yes, even I look at my stats everyday but I also have realistic expectations so low numbers just push me to post something if I can or tweet more.

  2. I’m still working on a balance- I use my notes app and I have a physical note book for jotting down drafts and reviews when I don’t want my phone out in front of the children but it is inevitable at times.
    However I am getting into more of a habit, and getting a store of reviews and ideas that I type up or copy across to free up more family time as I find my groove and settle into it.
    Like you I have few views when I don’t post, but I only have 4 and a bit months worth of posts when others have years of carefully curated and SEO posts to draw in new readers.
    I’m trying not to compare myself and just trying to focus on what I want to say, I’m not going to be a celebrity blogger but I’m going to try to be good at what I manage to do.

  3. Absolutely, time is one of the biggest obstacles with blogging, and it is about finding that balance. For 2019 I made a resolution to be better at scheduling posts and writing them in advance, and so far that has gone reasonably well.

  4. I get my posts written and scheduled in the evening when I can. I’m lucky to have wi-fi at work and am able to sneakily check my social media….

    1. I can check twitter and stuff on my breaks but not while I’m at my desk. Probably a good thing though, I’d get a little too intense checking and tweeting 😀

  5. This is a great reminder to make sure we’re present in our actual lives as well as our blog communities. I post once a week at the moment but once I’m done studying (or in semester breaks) I’m hoping to write a bunch of reviews of series I’ve read so I can schedule those to start up again, and I have a few discussion topics I just haven’t had time to write as much as I’d really love to. Like you I work full time but I also study and am trying to exercise more to get fitter. Time just seems to escape me!

    1. So true! That’s great though, I hope that it works out and you can get those topics written. Time is a fickle thing, never enough hours in the day..

  6. Thank you for writing this post, it’s so true! I started a blog about two years ago but deleted it because I didn’t feel confident about continuing with it. I started again last year and it’s a fantastic creative outlet for me, but like you say, this is my hobby not my full time-job.
    I’ve taken on the same mentality and I don’t post unless there is something I feel the need to share. Therefore, taking the pressure off myself and remembering why I am doing it in the first place!
    Great post and thanks for sharing ?

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